Get to know me
Hello!! I am Heather and I am so glad that you decided to get to know more about me! I am a stay at home mother of three. While I love my children and enjoy being available to them all day everyday, I did not always enjoy this.
I actually struggled when I decided to become a stay at home mom. I am sure many moms can relate to the feeling of being inadequate. We live in a world full of social media moms who seem to have it all together, while there are still a vast majority of us just trying to make it to bedtime so we can sit down. The inspiration for this blog came from that struggle.
I have always worked outside of the home and found working inside the home to lack a routine, which being a perfectionist, I need. I also quickly realized that without a routine my life was thrown into chaos and I ended up having postpartum depression. That is another story in itself and I promise to write a post about it because I know there are plenty of women out there who have or are currently struggling through this condition.
My Faith and Family
(Paxton, Thomas, and Kara)
(My husband, Zach, and me)
I am a follower of Jesus above everything else. Though I was not always involved in the church, I did not become a full-fledged Christian until 2013 actually. While growing up I remember having an on and off relationship with Christ. In 2013 my husband and I decided to try a church together for the first time. I fell in love with Jesus that day. Church has been a major part of my life since that day, as well as spending time in God’s word daily and intentionally listening for his voice.
The main intention with this blog is to glorify the name of our blessed father and hopefully bring more of his children into fellowship with him by describing my own struggles with perfection, motherhood and marriage!
Aside from being a strong lover of Christ, I am also completely in love with my wonderful husband. More often than not work is usually where he can be found, but when we do have time together it is very cherished and always fun! He is truly my rock and I would be so empty without him.
We met seven years ago and fell in love pretty quickly. Although we were in love we had a very rough start, as in the first three years of our relationship we barely made it. We pushed through though, found a way to overcome our differences, we learned over time how to compromise and start living for the other person instead of living selfishly. He is such a good man and I am truly blessed!
I have four beautiful children. Quite a bit of my time is spent trying to figure out how I can be a better mother for them. As I said earlier I am a perfectionist. I do not like failing at anything, but often feel like I am not measuring up in specific areas.
Parenting is one such area. I have to remind myself daily that God has blessed me with these babies and he expects me to manage and love them as he would, so that is what I strive to do each day. I have guilty moments at least once a day and feel like I am failing my children and failing God. It is in those times when I spend a few moments to really look at what I am doing and why I feel I am doing it wrong.
This is probably a blessing for my children because I am CONSTANTLY working to be a better mom for them. Whether it is in how much time we spend together, what responsibilities I place in their laps or just the method I use to discipline and mold each one of them individually. They are what I look forward to seeing every morning and I just want to be the best for them!
I am a perfectionist and am always noticing the little flaws in myself and in the way I handle life. I have had to put in a lot of work, and am still working, to relinquish some control into the hands of the Lord.
Knowing that I will never be able to live up to my expectation of perfect has been challenging, but I am slowly becoming comfortable and satisfied knowing that Christ made me perfect in his sight. He made me exactly as he wanted me, and while it is always necessary to try to be better for those around us everyday, it is also important to be satisfied in who God has created us to be because he does not make mistakes.
I hope you find something useful to incorporate into your daily life in my ramblings. Mostly though I hope you hear God’s voice through my words. He has inspired me, he has inspired this blog and I hope he inspires you through me!
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