Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it. Proverbs 22:6
Am I positively impacting my child? I know I am not the only mother to question the impression I’m leaving on my children. I often feel like I am failing them somehow, and as you’ll see here, that thought alone is failure. Proverbs 22:6 tell us, “train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” You probably feel they will not retain your lessons into old age though.
Your Children Are A Mirror Of You
When my daughter misbehaves or acts rudely to someone we speak about her behavior. We talk about how she can act differently next time and what she should’ve done this time. Yet, I still find myself questioning whether all my parenting is just going in one ear and out the other.
She showed me the impact I am having on her this year on Mother’s Day. She gifted me a chest filled with notes saying things about me. Most were necessary things, such as doing her laundry, feeding her, and letting her go outside. There were some though that really showed me she sees what I do and is retaining it. Some of these were, “she is brave, she is strong, she prays for me, and she loves me so much.”
Along with this she created a short book that had a letter and questions about me. In this book she mentioned that I pray for her, my favorite thing is to read the bible, and she even wrote out a prayer for me at the end of her letter. She took the initiative to pray for me. I do not point out when I do this in throughout the day, but she saw it and mirrored it back to me.
You Are Imprinting Things On Your Child’s Heart
You seem to repeat the same things to your children and this causes doubts about whether it is being absorbed. Every day you try to show your children how to behave or how to live responsibly. It can still feel as if it goes unnoticed because how often do we get a thank you or a pat on the back? You do not need recognition or even want it. You just feel that all you do may not be having a lasting impact.
Yet, we are told what an impact we do have in 2 Timothy 3:14 “But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have become convinced of, because you know those from whom you learned it.” Children know their mothers and it is you that teaches them things before anyone else does.
Mothers introduce scripture not only through story time, but also through their own actions. Your children see you in your bible. These children see you praying not for yourself, but for them and those around you. They witness your relationship with God and see how your actions reflect that relationship.
They witness your relationship with God and see how your actions reflect that relationship.
You Will See Your Impact In Time
You are your children’s first teacher. There are moments that you look at your child and think, “who the heck are you and where did my baby go!?” Yet, you can rest assured knowing that outside of these moments, they are retaining everything you say and do.
One day they will be older and mature, it is then you will be able to see how much you’ve impacted them. Do not lose heart and try to remain patient in your mothering because all you do is having an impact.
Have your children ever shown you what an impact you are having on them, like my daughter did? Let me know in the comments below!