Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.
Now, I wake up a good hour before my household usually so that I can get some quality time in with our Lord. There are days though, that my children get up extremely early and this devotion time is interrupted. This is one example, in the beginning of my day, that I find hard to not get frustrated by. We, moms, need to stop the cycle of frustration though and try to remain calm.
I imagine if God were sitting next to me, and my preschooler ran out to inform me my toddler was awake and screaming in his crib, God would probably be more than accepting of this interruption. So why is it that I find myself getting so frustrated?
Stop With The Expectations
You wake up with expectations that today will go as planned and everyone will do what they are supposed to. You have every intention of getting the kids taken care of, the house cleaned, the laundry done, and spending quality time with your family. Unfortunately, that is not how every day is going to play out.
We, mothers, tend to get frustrated with our children when they aren’t behaving how we expect them to behave. Mothers let the interruptions in THEIR schedule for the day get the best of them, which causes them to lash out in frustration. That is not managing your children as God intended. He tells us, “a gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger,” Proverbs 15:1.
What are you teaching your little one when you are shouting at everything they are doing? They are tiny humans and not acting outside of their developmental age. You are the one letting your expectations rule your reactions.
Put Yourself In Their Shoes
You may not remember being a child, but I am sure you can think of times that you got yelled at and couldn’t understand why. You have a child who is still learning and maturing. Many times your children will do things they think are fun or helpful, but you see it as wrong and getting in the way. Take a second next time to step back and see it from their perspective. This could save a lot of yelling and frustration for you both.
Do you ever just have a day that is so bad and all you need is a hug or encouraging word? Your children have those days too because they are human. If they seem to be acting fussier than usual then maybe they are having a rough day. A hug and a simple, “I love you,” can go a LONG way with a child. They are still unsure how to work through emotions properly so be sympathetic to that fact.
There are so many ways to get through these meltdowns with patience, instead of anger. You can be a more patient mom, it is what God has called us to be! If you find yourself truly struggling then maybe a long talk with the Lord is all you need.
3 Ways You Can Stay Calm In The Midst Of Chaos
- Place God’s word on your heart, a good verse to remember is Proverbs 29:11, “fools give vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end.” We want to calm our children’s chaos, not add to it.
- Remind yourself that YOU are teaching them how to handle emotions. Teaching them positive reactions and being sympathetic to others is YOUR duty. They will only act as they see you act.
- Go sit in a room without your children if you find yourself getting too emotional. Breathe, pray, count to ten, whatever you need to do to relax, go ahead and do it.
What are some things you do to stop the cycle of frustration and remain calm?
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